Friends with benefits.

Friends with benefits do not work. Ever! Doubt me? Here are the reasons why.

1. There is an expiry date. While this may work for both of you know, it will eventually get old. Not because you want the other person to be your significant other, but because as humans our natural inclination or focus is for some form of progress. A stagnant relationship based purely on sexual interaction will be fun and enjoyable until you hear about or see your peers enjoying real, grown up relationships.
   
2. One of you will break the deal. In any relationship of this nature, it is understood that this is a purely physical agreement, however, regardless of how many times this is reiterrated, one of the parties will break the deal and invite their emotions to the bedroom. This is not the type of threesome your partner was suggesting.
   


3. They never end well. Either for the reasons above or the one I'm about to mention, they never end well. Ultimately the friend with benefits is just a place holder, a seat filler, someone holding a spot in line. So when you do meet someone that you actually want to have a relationship with, or see a future with you end your arrangement with you friend. This will leave them upset, feeling cheated, disappointed that you didn't pick them.
   


4. Feelings could develop.That's very true, they could. Ed McMahon could bring a suitcase of money to you (instead of that stupid oversized sweepstakes cheque) and pigs could be the ultimate form of flight transportation in the future. Sorry excuse my scenism, but I'm a strong believer in self fulfilling prophecies. If I have in my mind that you're just a "toy" I'm going to think of you that way, it'll be hard for me to adjust my thinking to treat you like a true potential mate all of a sudden.
   


5. Sex is not enough. Although this is the cornerstone of this whole arrangement. It's not enough. One day your friend will say something that makes you question their intentions or is a complete turn off or you find disrespectful and you'll think to yourself, the sex just isn't worth it. As you mature, your priorities change, you may learn self control and you may realize sex is not a need but rather a want.

These are the reasons why I don't think these arrangements are such a good idea. What are your thoughts? Do you think friends with benefits can co-exist for an extended period? Is it ok to go on dates with your "friend"? Why was this ever thought to be a good idea?