Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Myths about Male/Female Relationships





According to blackhabits.com, the following are
a list of myths about black male/female relationships.
These articles apply to the depiction of relationships
as of 2008.  I can't say that I agree with all of them 
but here is what I have to say on each subject.

1. Marriages/relationships don't last:
Correction - not all marriages/relationships last and
if they did, we would be living in a perfect world.

2. They are only about sex:
I highly disagree.  I can understand why the media 
would think this though, considering the fact that 
there are so many children being born with illigitimate
parents.  Not to mention the fact that shows like 
Maury Povich highlight women who need to have
paternity tests done to find the fathers of their children.
Sex is not valued in this day in age as much as it
should be

3. Are filled with arguments, hardships and pain:
And what relationship isn't?  A true relationships
involves all of these components but it's how you 
overcome and deal with them that sets your
relationship aside from the rest.

4. All men cheat on their partners:
Society wants us to believe this, so that it continues
to provide men with the message that it's ok.  Everyone's
definition of cheating varies but let me just say, don't
be fooled.  If you've been in numerous relationships
or are in a long term relationship, you've been cheated 
on whether you now it or not.

5. Black women can't hold relationships together
because they are too domineering and demanding:
I've heard males say this one before and I can see
this issue from both sides.  As a woman living in 
the 21st century, we are more educated, empowering
and outspoken.  Now males, if you want a woman 
who is pro-active and who can hold her own, she needs
to be able to speak her mind.  Now ladies, pride is 
a huge thing for men, as long as he's being respectful,
we need to give them a chance to feel like a man.  We're
not here to be anyone's mom, we're here for support.

It sucks that this is how society perceives the 
male/female relationships that we are engaging in.  If this
is the assumption, we need to be setting a different 
standard, higher and above everyone's expectations.

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